How do I find my authentic self? when it has been years since we last met.
Knowing that you want to re-connect is the start , the journey is based on honesty unveiling and getting curious about who you truly are.
Living your life as your Authentic Self would be to live life being true to yourself.
No hiding behind a facade or walking in the shadows of others.
WHAT IS IT
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we actually are.” Brene Brown
MY TAKE ON WHAT IT IS (Insert out of my new book, Choose to Climb Dare to Fly...)
AUTHENTIC SELF:
When I hear true self or Authentic self what it means to me is to simply live life within the realm of believing in your own heart, combined with what you say align with how you act and how you choose to live your own life.
Did I say simply... yes I did, is it easy or simple to wake up one day and say "today I am living my authentic self my true self, no not at all".
Your Authentic Self is the person you were when you were born for the first 5-7 yrs of your life, you had certain taste buds for foods that you loved, you gravitated toward certain colours, shapes sounds thing that stimulated you or you found amusing, they gave you joy, some kids you liked others you did not, so you chose to play with the ones that brought you joy, same with the toys you played with some you loved others not so much.
Along come the influences of; your parents, your culture, your religion, society, friend's, family members, husbands, wives, bullies and the list goes on.
Now eventually that authentic self has been somehow lost or split like a mathematical equation and divided into so many segments. Becoming the people pleaser, the accommodator, the saying "yes" when in fact you are sure you want to say "no".
And for quite some time you find yourself performing on this so-called stage of life in an ill -fitting costume, draped in a fabric that you did not like and a colour that did not match your eyes or your taste, and now you share lines of conversation with those you do not wish to converse with.
Along comes authentic self knocking on the stage door, and wants to revisit the stage in her own clothes out of the ill-fitting costume with her own choice of colour and fabric and with a desire to stand on a platform where she has her own voice to share with those that bring pleasure to her day.
That self is the one that you totally trust and believe in.
You are now entitled to reclaim your True Authentic Self, this journey will take some time and some challenges.
For now you are working toward wholehearted living. This will take some courage, some self compassion, getting rid of toxic people that no loner have a place in your life. Will you stumble and will you fall? Probably.
But you will also know that you are now living your life trusting in your own heart. You are no longer alone for you are true to yourself. You are now reuniting with your
Authentic self answerable to you. There will no longer be regrets for you will rise to all that life has to offer with your new found true self.
“Stay Original play to your strengths, finding value and purpose in your own life, by reclaiming your authentic self. "
You are now creating a balance of genuine respect and integrity to live by, some may love you for it and others may not. "But hey who's life is this anyway."